Why I Hate Gender Neutrality

At the risk of being offensive, I'm going to share my feelings on the Alberta government's new "gender neutral" policies.

I believe strongly in equal importance of the sexes, and I believe that men and women's respective strengths and weaknesses complement each other in a yin-yang effect that is important to embrace for a successful and happy life.

I believe that men and women are intellectual equals. Women are naturally more compassionate, and men are naturally more analytical. This makes for an excellent balance in a society of equal rights.

I believe men are more physically suited for hard labour. Women are more physically suited for administrative, academic, or domestic roles. I say this while I work in an administrative role and I am the main cook at home, so I am fully aware that this is an over-generalization, but that doesn't make it less true. I'm definitely better suited to go throw square bales into the back of a truck than my wife is. This is true for most couples. Men's domination of leadership roles is strictly a leftover of the patriarchy, but is slowly lessening.

I believe that being a manly man is something to strive for and be proud of. I believe that being a womanly woman is something to strive for and be proud of. Being a manly man includes being in complete control of (sometimes out of touch with) his emotions, being a leader, some form of physical prowess, commanding the respect of betters, peers, and subordinates in equal measure, being able to put food on the table, and being responsible for the protection of loved ones. I also appreciate the "rites to manhood" like swimming in a mountain river, snaring food, hunting, fishing, camping, building fires, shaving, growing a beard, etc. I'll admit complete ignorance in what it takes to be a womanly woman, but I think it has something to do with being awesome in ways that I can't fathom while still having time to do her hair, but I don't know. I don't think men are meant to understand that. However, men can still tell on a subconscious level how womanly a woman is, and respect her for that.

I believe it is a positive thing to encourage children to learn to be manly men and womanly women. It's more important to encourage happiness of course, but there's nothing wrong with gender roles! My very young son likes to wear nail polish. That's fine, when he's old enough I'm still going to teach him how to sharpen a hunting knife. He'll just have to take it off when he's learning how to stalk a deer because I don't want the deer to smell it.

I believe the best successes are had in parenthood when there is a mother and father both in the household. Single parents or same-sex couples can do just fine, but I think it's more difficult for them.

I believe male and female emotions are very different in how they must be managed. It's a man's job to teach his son how, and a woman's job to teach her daughter how. This is one of the most important lessons of parenthood, because understanding the difference between delayed satisfaction and instant gratification can be the difference between a happy, successful life, or incarceration.

I believe that males and females should only be nude in the same room if they are consenting adults, or young children who don't know the difference but are accompanied by a trusted guardian. Adult men and women want to be nude together? Cool, where's the hot tub? Adults think it's okay to put boys and girls in the same change room? Nope, and I'll take a hard line on that.

I believe it is wrong to compel the overwhelming majority to make lifestyle changes for the comfort of a small minority. The minority must be protected from harm, and they are free to do what they wish as long as it hurts no one. However, it is up to the minority to adapt and compromise, not the other way around.

What I Want From My Government

I think of myself as a free market socialist. Here's what I want from my government:

- Stay out of my life. It's not your business what I put into my body, or do/have in my home. However, if you ask politely, and have a legitimate reason, I'll gladly give your agents a tour.
- Stay out of my business. Unless it has a direct effect on public safety, what I sell and how isn't your concern. How I run my business and what I'm willing to pay is also none of your concern, unless I am doing evil, like defrauding my customers, employees, or tax collectors.
- Keep me safe. Give police and military the training and tools necessary to protect me from people who would do me and mine harm. Allow them to perform their function, and hold them accountable with fair consideration for the position they're in.
- Don't waste time and resources. Pass legislation that makes sense and has a purpose. Don't just pass laws to keep the media saying nice things about you.
- Educate me. Education certainly isn't my right, but it is an investment that will almost always pay huge dividends to the community.
- Keep me healthy. Also not a right, but definitely an investment in the community. I can't contribute if I'm ill or injured, so give me a boost.
- Tax me fairly, in a way that makes sense. Current taxation is far too complicated. How many resources are wasted in simply interpreting the policies and procedures?

Know What You're Voting FOR

I have noticed a trend floating around social media. Canadians are displeased with Stephen Harper. Every time someone posts something about the Liberals or the NDP, it says, "Vote for [insert party] because Harper..." This is very dangerous.

Everyone forgets that you can't vote against Harper. In fact, you can't vote against anyone or anything. You have to vote FOR someone. Who are you voting for, and why? You don't have to answer the question for me, you have to answer the question for yourself. If you can't answer that question without the word "Harper" in the answer, then you're voting for the wrong reasons.

Don't vote NDP because you're mad at Harper.
Vote NDP because you want higher taxes, believe there aren't bad guys hiding among the refugees that want into Canada, you want to spend $1 billion so rifle owners who already have licenses should have to register their rifles, and you believe the Canadian economy will flourish without primary industries like logging, oil, and food production. Everyone needs higher wages, not jobs!

Don't vote Liberal because you're mad at Harper.
Vote Liberal because you want to legalize weed, pay higher taxes, negotiate with people whose only desire is your death, and you also support higher taxes and a $1billion registry to tell police that licensed gun owners do, in fact, own guns.

Don't vote Green because you're mad at Harper.
Vote Green because you believe that Elizabeth May was the only one in Parliament to vote against the mission in Syria, not because she's wrong, but because she's the only one who isn't. Also, oil pipelines are bad because trains don't actually do any damage when they derail.

Please, vote Conservative. Then, call your MP and tell him/her why you almost didn't, so they don't piss you off again. Get involved. Speak to your representative once in a while. If that doesn't work, then vote for someone who will listen to your phone calls.

Retraining our Society of Victims is Necessary for Survival

When I was studying Terrorism Survival and Crime Survival, we learned the difference between a soft target versus hard target, and a low value target versus a high value target. The worst situation of course is to be a soft target of high value.

Now, you take a soft target like a Pokemon tournament. Typically not very high value, so you don't need to worry, right? Wrong, apparently. Whiny little bitches who haven't been taught how to manage their emotions now target places like schools, movie theatres, and goddamn Pokemon tournaments just to make themselves feel better.

What's the world coming to? It's coming to a place where the criminals are treated like the victims because they had shitty upbringings. The police are neutered by both the court of law and the court of public opinion, so they are completely powerless to protect us. Simultaneously, our legislators continue to pass laws restricting our rights and abilities to protect ourselves from the bad guys. We don't learn to stand up to bullies in school anymore. We're taught to comply in an armed robbery. Our emergency response procedures involve appeasement and cooperation. The bad guys are being given all the cards.

If we change how we think, if we make the conscious choice as a collective to stand up to bullies, we can make a real difference. I don't just mean stand up to bullies when you're being bullied, but when anyone is being bullied. That is the best way to discourage bullying. Youth suicides will all but stop, because they will feel safe and protected.

Continue this new mindset to the "real world." If everyone makes the conscious decision to stop the armed robber when he shows up, they'll stop. If everyone makes the decision to learn how to defend themselves, when someone shows up to shoot up the Pokemon tournament, someone is going to stop him before the body count gets high.

We learn in biology class about the Fight or Flight response to fear. There is a third option: Submit. The accurate response to fear is Fight, Flight, or Submit. I think you'll find that in most situations, people will simply submit. This is partly because of how we're hardwired, but this is also largely because of the society of victims that we are raising. Everything is always someone else's fault. Blame society. Blame the Jews. Blame the government. Blame the police. Blame the whites. Stop it. Stop being pussies and take it by the horns. It's on you to fix the problem. Do you know what to do if you're standing in line for the bank teller and someone pulls out a gun? Are you going to submit? Probably.

I'll probably submit, too. Any level of martial artist, soldier, or police officer out of uniform and in that situation will probably submit. The difference between us and most of you is that while we submit, we'll be looking for a tactical advantage. If and when we find that tactical advantage, that sunuvabitch will no longer be an entity unto himself. We will own him.

The world needs more people who think that way. Right now, the bad guys do what they please because they know we'll all submit. We, as a society, need to teach them that we will not submit. That we will own them. We will take away their power, and we will lock them in a cage to consider their life choices. If they truly repent and make amends, then we will forgive them and allow them to reintegrate into our society, but we will not forget. If they think we will allow them to fool us twice, they're done.

There, in a few short paragraphs, I have solved violent crime in North America. Now the problem is convincing people. Seek out some classes. There are classes for everyone. If you have years to learn and want to master something, there are traditional martial arts out there that can adapt to real world situations. If you like to compete, there's competitive arts like Taekwondo, MMA, Boxing, and Kickboxing. If you just want to learn some self defense, seek out Reality Based Personal Protection or Krav Maga. It's not the techniques that matter, it's the mindset. It's the conscious decision made ahead of time to take action, and the conflict rehearsals that prepare you to do so.

As one of my instructors always says, Be a Hard Target. I'll see that and raise it to Make Everyone a Hard Target.

The Warrior Creed

by Robert L. Humphrey(Marine Rifle Platoon Commander on Iwo Jima
& Bujinkan 10th Dan)

Wherever I go,
everyone is a little bit safer because I am there.

Wherever I am,
anyone in need has a friend.

Whenever I return home,
everyone is happy I am there.

Policing Freedom

On the day that America celebrates its Independence Day, I reflect on the main tenet America was founded upon - freedom. Canada was founded in a much different way, but on the same basic tenet. What happened to our freedom?

Sure the United States passed its Bill of Rights, and we passed our Charter of Rights and Freedoms. Now, slowly and democratically, we are giving our freedom away. Especially in America, we have recreated the aristocracy. The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, just like so many times in history before violent uprisings.

We elect our representatives, considering a 40% turnout to be an excellent turnout of voters. That means that the majority of the minority is actually electing our representatives. The rest of us can't be bothered, because we simply can't be bothered. Even if we do vote, we fill out our ballot, and stop paying attention. Whomever we elected can do whatever the hell they want, and we don't pay attention. We are actually happier being told what to do... until someone tells us what to do.

When someone tells us what to do, it is usually a police officer, speaking on behalf of the democratically elected government, which was "democratically" elected by the majority of the people who could be bothered to give a shit and vote. Then we vilify the police officer, who is obviously being an asshole and infringing on our freedoms because he is a jackbooted thug with a gun who feels entitled and is powertripping. Right? Right?

When a democratically elected government, whether municipal, provincial, or federal makes a stupid law, don't fight the guy who has been told by that government to enforce it. He is going to win. It's not his job to debate with you, or explain it to you, or reason with you, or even decide if it's right or wrong. It's his job to impose the will of the government on you. If the will of the government is stupid and unfair, it's still his job. He doesn't have to like it, but he does have to win the fight. Period. The police officer's job description in two sentences: "Impose the will of the government. Period." Fortunately, we live somewhere that the government's will is usually benevolent, so Community Policing, involvement, serving, and protecting, is part of that will.

Before you get pissed off at a police officer for enforcing a stupid ass law, maybe take a look at the jackasses that voted for the people who passed that law. Then go have a chat with the elected officials. Take part in the democratic process. Don't complain that the rules are stupid and get mad at the guy whose job it is to enforce them, get involved and help CHANGE THE RULES.

The Lord's Prayer in School

I've been asked to post my take on the big issue in Taber right now, prayer in school.

Our Father who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done
On Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us.
Lead us not into temptation,
But deliver us from evil.
Thine is the kingdom,
The power and glory,
Forever and ever.

If I harmed you by writing that, I don't think the problem is the prayer. I think you need to sit down and examine your life a little closer and determine why it hurt you.

You don't have to believe in God for this prayer to have power. It works just as well translated into plain speak and internalized:

'OK, Ty. Everything's going to work out fine. Get through today, it'll be alright. Everybody makes mistakes, so don't dwell on those made by others. Don't eat that second helping of cake, and don't shoplift that chocolate bar. Just stay out of trouble, and remain humble.'

It's more or less a poem about how to be a good person. Saying it hurts absolutely nobody. They aren't teaching creationism in their history class. It ain't broke, so don't fix it. Fighting about whether or not it's said in a group setting will accomplish absolutely nothing in the big picture, but it will hurt the children caught in the crossfire of the conflict.

Minimum Wage: Myopic, Ineffective, and Harmful

There has been a lot of talk about increasing minimum wage in Alberta ever since the NDP was elected to a majority government. The current minimum wage in Alberta is $10.20 per hour, unless you're a liquor server. If you're a liquor server, it's $9.20 per hour because you are supposed to make decent tips serving alcohol. The government wants to increase minimum wage to $15.00 per hour by 2018. The government feels this will reduce poverty in Alberta, but in reality it will actually increase poverty for families. It will do absolutely no favours for minimum-wage earners, and it will do severe damage to rural economies in Alberta.

The Flawed Logic

Few people remember it, but the New Democratic Party actually used to be called the Communist Party. They are considered much more socialist than communist in this age, but we are already seeing the beginnings of communism from this government. Think back to junior high social studies. The first thing that a communist government does when it comes into power is called Redistribution of Wealth. While this sounds like a wonderful idea to the lower class, a cool idea to the middle class, and a terrible idea to the aristocracy, it truly is just a bad idea on the scale of a province. Trying to redistribute wealth in a province of a much larger country will simply drive the wealthy to other jurisdictions. Alberta has been thriving for decades largely because other provinces have tried to redistribute wealth, and that has driven the wealthy towards Alberta.
There is a saying among the proletariat classes: "From below, everyone above you just looks like an ass." We resent the wealthy because we are envious of what they have. Step back and take a look at the larger picture. It is the wealthy who invest money in our province. They pay taxes (although arguably not enough), they invest in charities, they spend money on community initiatives (parks, etc), and they are the members of service clubs. I am a Rotarian, and when I joined Rotary, I heard the joke that some clubs are considered ROMEO's. That stands for Rich Old Men Eating Out. That is a large part of what several service clubs do with their time, but it's at those dinners that they discuss where they can invest their money and volunteer their time to help people. So many communities around the world have benefitted from the wealthy spending their time in clubs like Rotary, Lions, Kin, Knights of Columbus, Stonemasons, Kiwanis, and so many others. These clubs aren't exclusive to the wealthy by any means, but it's definitely the wealthy that provide the lifeblood and make the initiatives of these clubs possible. If the wealthy all move to other areas of the country, or other countries, we will only suffer as a whole. We all want a bigger piece of the pie, but it's there to earn. Take careful risks, make good choices, get educated, and make it happen. Don't rely on electing the right person to legislate it to you. That's lazy, weak, and whiny.
The main idea behind increasing the minimum wage to $15.00 per hour is that the "living wage" in Calgary is $17 and change. Those in favour of a minimum wage increase argue that you cannot make a living and support your family on the current minimum wage. In order to live in relative comfort, you must make at least $17 in Calgary. The main problem I have with that is that I don't think anybody is actually expected to make a living and support a family on minimum wage. Minimum wage jobs are meant to be entry-level jobs for people who are just joining the work force, and they have minimal skills, minimal experience, and minimal employability. These people are youths, students, underachievers, or people that have fallen on hard times. The kid pumping your gas, or carrying your groceries, or sweeping your shop floor are the ones who are making minimum wage. They are learning what it's like to be in the workforce, to be part of a team, to show up on time, and to learn to earn more. That's what these jobs are meant for. As the people in these jobs learn, they will receive wage increases, or promotions and no longer be minimum wage earners. As they improve themselves with knowledge, experience, and education, they will make more money. If they don't make more money, they will leave the job they're at and go work for someone else. Wages are policed by Adam Smith's Invisible Hand of Capitalism, because if you're not happy with what you're making, you're going to work for someone who's paying better. It should not be the government's role to police wages. The exception to this is servers, who rely mostly on tips, and as a result can make just as much money as anyone else, if they're good at what they do and work in a busy restaurant or bar. However, higher minimum wages will destroy these restaurants and bars, so servers won't be able to make any money at all, will they?

The Wage Scale

In a blog post I wrote a few years ago, I alluded to the concept of "relative wage." Someone else may have come to this concept before me, but this I conceived it on my own, so if my theories don't mesh perfectly with what you've already read in an economics textbook, it's because I didn't read that textbook. My theory is that all wages are relative to the minimum wage. If you make $12 per hour, but minimum wage is $5 per hour, your wage is $7 per hour relative to minimum wage. Imagine wages as weights on a scale. When you weigh food on a scale, you have to zero the scale first, right? If you're going to weigh soup in a bowl, you must first put the bowl on the scale, and zero it. That way when you measure the soup, you get only the weight of the soup, not the bowl. Minimum wage is that zero point. If you make $20 per hour, with our current minimum wage of $10.20 per hour, your relative wage is $9.80 per hour. If we change the zero point by increasing minimum wage to $15 per hour, your new wage is $5 per hour. Does this still sound like a good idea?
The most obvious myopia of increasing minimum wage is that it will devalue everyone else's wages. For instance, I have worked the same job for almost 5 years, but I haven't seen a wage increase. Even though minimum wage has increased 3 times in the past 5 years, my wage has stayed the same. I suspect that is the case for a great many people. My relative wage has actually decreased 3 times in the past 5 years, and yours may have, too. Unless you work for a very generous employer who has increased your wage at a rate higher than all the minimum wage increases that have been imposed on us, then your relative wage has also decreased. The naïve people of our middle and upper classes think that increasing minimum wage will cause employers to increase everyone else's wages, too. We're just redistributing the wealth, right? Wrong.

The Effect on a Rural Economy, and the Hospitality Industry

In a hypothetical anecdote, I'm going to refer to a shoe store in a small rural town, not unlike my current town of Taber or my home town of High River. Jane has been running this shoe store since the mid-90's, and employs 5 people. She has 2 high school girls working in the evenings, making minimum wage, 2 people in the daytime making a relative wage of $7, and a manager responsible for the scheduling and helping with administration, making a relative wage of $12. It's a fairly prosperous business, and she pays herself a relative wage of $18 and she supports her family on that. Of course, minimum wage is $10.20, so her students make $10.20, her full time salespeople make $17.20, her manager makes $22.20, and she pays herself $28.20. This is a decent situation. The government increases minimum wage to $15. Legally, she has to pay her students more, so they get a raise up to $15 immediately. This comes directly out of her own pay of $28.20, so now she makes $12.60. (hey! She is paying herself less than minimum wage!!! Who is going to protect her from that?) She wants to give her other employees a pay increase to be fair to them, so she increases the price of shoes. Because every other store owner in town is doing the exact same thing, the price of everything is going up, so people can't readily afford to buy new shoes at the increased price. She starts selling fewer shoes. One of her full-time sales people is dissatisfied with a relative wage of $2.20, so she quits, leaving the owner short-staffed. She doesn't save any money on that because, she is now selling less product. She ends up closing in evenings because she can't afford the minimum wage of her students, so they're now without work. Again, she doesn't save money because she's not selling any shoes in the evenings, now. Our heroine continues to try selling more shoes at the higher price so she can pay her staff more and still support her family. She can't. Eventually, she gives up. What choice does she have? Next week, she is selling shoes for Wal-Mart in Calgary for $17, because that's the only possible way she can support her family. Every small business owner in my hypothetical town goes through a similar problem, so now my hypothetical town becomes a shadow of its former self, employing nursing home workers because retired seniors are the only people who can live there.
This sounds like a worst-case scenario, but I'm seeing evidence of it happening already. Take a drive through downtown Taber. How many empty storefronts do you see? SAAN is gone, the Bargain Shop is gone, the men's clothing store is gone, so many stores are gone! There are other factors, but I promise this is a big one. It's not profitable to own a small store anymore, so nobody does. When your store can only afford to pay you less than you'd make at Wal-Mart, you go work at Wal-Mart. It's the only thing that makes sense.

What can we do?

Please contact your local MLA. It's surprisingly easy. Click on https://www.assembly.ab.ca/net/index.aspx?p=mla_home and select your area. Send them an email. You can either write how you feel, or just simply send them a link to this post and tell them you are not in favour of a minimum wage increase. They work for you! Tell them what you want them to do. Please. It's the right thing to do to protect your job, your business, and your livelihood.